What makes a man more interested in a woman?

22 Subtle Signs A Guy Likes You, From Dating Experts

Kelly Gonsalves is a sex educator, relationship coach, and journalist. She received her journalism degree from Northwestern University, and her writings on sex, relationships, identity, and wellness have appeared at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere.

November 26, 2021

Does he like me?

If you’re wondering because you have a crush on the guy in question, the best way to know is to simply ask him directly. But if you want to first confirm that there are at least a few signs he likes you back, here are a few ways to tell if a guy likes you.

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But real quick, in case you’re wondering if the signs of attraction are different when it comes to guys: «There are general behaviors that all genders engage in naturally when they are interested in someone else,» says sex and dating coach Myisha Battle, M.S. «We’re definitely more alike when it comes to showing romantic interest.»

With that out of the way, let’s get into this.

He leans toward you during conversation.

People tend to naturally lean toward people they like in conversation, according to Battle. If the guy you like tends to lean his face in closer to yours while he’s talking to you or listening to you talk, that’s a good sign that he might be into you.

He angles his body toward you in the room.

According to sex and relationship therapist Courtney Geter, LMFT, CST, a person has more open body language toward someone they like: «They’re not closed off, their arms aren’t crossed, and they can sit back and relax,» she recently told mbg. In particular, pay attention to the direction he angles his body. If his body—including shoulders and pelvis—are angled toward you and facing you, that’s a good sign. But if he generally points his body away from yours, that’s a sign that he might not be into you.

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He finds small ways to compliment you.

Battle says people tend to find small ways to compliment someone they’re interested in. So if a guy keeps genuinely complimenting everything from your eyes to your creative endeavors, that could be a sign they’re really into you.

He makes eye contact.

Eye contact can be a sign of attraction, though be careful with this one: Some people are good about making eye contact with anyone and everyone they talk to because they care about making the people around them feel seen. But if your crush tends to look you directly in the eye and hold your gaze, that could be a sign there’s something more there.

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He steals a glance at you.

Even if he makes eye contact with everyone he talks to, it’s another story if you keep catching him looking at you even when you’re on the other side of the room. Stolen glances are a classic sign that someone is a little captivated by you.

He singles you out in a group.

When you’re in a group situation, he still finds a way to make small moments with you, whether by asking you direct questions or just always responding to the things you say. He’s always laughing at your jokes, looks at you even when he’s laughing at someone else’s joke, or makes little side conversations with you whenever he can.

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He seems drawn to you in the room.

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In general, he just seems to be energetically drawn to you in the room—as if his focus, body language, and general energy all just seem to be kind of focused on you. Even when he’s off talking to someone else, there still seems to be the vibe that he’s paying attention to you.

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He wants to spend time with you one-on-one.

If this guy is a friend of yours, someone in your office or class, or someone you just run into at parties sometimes, and he keeps trying to find ways to get one-on-one time together, that’s a sign that he’s trying to connect with you more on a personal level. Though that could just be a friendship budding, it could also mean that he likes you romantically.

He finds small ways to touch you.

He’s always finding little moments to share physical contact with you, whether by putting his hand on the small of your back when he passes by you, bumping your shoulder with his while he laughs, or playing with your hair.

He actively plans dates.

If you meet a guy on a dating app, it can be hard to tell if a guy has strong feelings for you or if he’s just going through the motions. The key tell is if he’s actively initiating dates and making plans, according to Battle. That’s usually a sign that he genuinely likes you and wants to keep connecting, and there may actually be something there.

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He follows up after the date.

Likewise, if this is someone you just went on a date with, Battle says you can tell someone is actually interested in you if they follow up after the date. They might send you a text the next day saying they had a lot of fun, or they might send you a meme or article related to something you talked about, or they might reach out asking to make plans again.

He’s consistent with communication.

Are they texting you regularly and always keeping in touch? «Communication consistency is a great indicator of interest,» Battle says. «Someone who is truly interested in you will not disappear for long stretches of time only to reappear with no explanation.»

He responds to your texts quickly.

Some people just don’t check their phones that often, are slow texters, or are just super busy, so just because someone doesn’t text you back right away doesn’t mean they’re not into you. But if a guy always responds to your texts pretty quickly, Battle says they may be trying to indicate that they’re interested in you.

He initiates conversation on social media.

Liking your posts and leaving comments doesn’t always mean a guy is into you, but Battle says to notice if he’s consistently initiating actual conversations with you on social media. «They will not only like your posts and comment on them but also share things with you and maintain regular communication in DMs,» she says. If he’s constantly responding to your IG stories or Snapchats, asking you questions, and generally keeping the conversations with you going, those are all signs someone is really trying to nurture a connection with you.

He keeps the conversation going.

In general, whether over text or in person, notice if he is trying to keep conversations going with you. That means he’ll always ask a follow-up question or offer detailed responses to your questions, and he never responds with just one-word answers or «lol» by itself.

He blushes around you.

Do you notice his face or skin gets red when he’s around you? That happens when we’re excited or getting a hit of adrenaline, clinical psychologist Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D., recently told mbg, and it’s a common sign of attraction. «Blushing is an honest response,» she says. «You feel ‘caught’ being sexually excited about another person.»

He seems a little nervous.

If a guy is usually pretty laid back or boisterous with his friends, but with you he gets a little nervous and trips over his words a little, that could be a sign that he likes you and is getting a little caught up trying to impress you.

He laughs a lot around you.

Is he always giving you big, hearty laughs—the kind that make his face get all scrunched up? Or he smiles a lot around you—that warm, intimate type of smile that reaches his eyes? Laughter and smiling are ways of establishing connection, rapport, and intimacy with others.

He removes distractions.

When you’re around, he’s never stealing glances at his phone or the TV. He gives you his full, undivided attention, and he may even go out of his way to remove barriers or distractions that might get in the way of his time with you.

He takes the lead.

While there are universal ways that people of all genders show romantic interest, Battle notes that there are some common cultural scripts that men—particularly men who date women—might use to show they’re attracted to someone. «These scripts, rooted in patriarchy, are based on gender stereotypes of men being more active and women being more passive and assume that men will take the lead,» she explains. So, some men might be particularly proactive about showing they like a girl.

He takes your lead.

Of course, not all men are going to follow the stereotypes that say they have to be the one to make the first move. «A lot of my clients, regardless of gender, want to feel like an equal when it comes to courtship and are just as likely to show their interest first as they are to take someone else’s lead,» Battle explains. So even if he isn’t the one making a move, you’ll know a guy likes you if he responds positively when you make a move.

He tells you directly.

Here’s the thing about trying to know if a guy likes you: Sometimes looking for small signs is never going to give you an accurate full picture of what’s going on. Some guys will do all of the above with their friends, while other guys will like someone but not do any of the above.

«Some folks may be less able to express their attractions as overtly as this,» Battle says. «For instance, my shy clients sometimes struggle with externalizing their feelings for a crush even in subtle ways. That means that even though they like someone, it might be harder for the other person to tell. When in doubt, talk about it!»

If you’re not sure if a guy likes you but is hiding it, just ask him and let him tell you directly how he feels. It sounds scary, but it definitely doesn’t have to be! A simple «Hey, I think you’re really cool, and I’m kind of into you—are you into me?» is casual, direct, a little sexy, and also nonthreatening. If it’s a no, at least you know! And if it’s a yes, now the fun stuff begins.

Kelly Gonsalves
Contributing Sex & Relationships Editor

Kelly Gonsalves is a multi-certified sex educator and relationship coach helping people figure out how to create dating and sex lives that actually feel good — more open, more optimistic, and more pleasurable. In addition to working with individuals in her private practice, Kelly serves as the Sex & Relationships Editor at mindbodygreen. She has a degree in journalism from Northwestern University, and she’s been trained and certified by leading sex and relationship institutions such as The Gottman Institute and Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, among others. Her work has been featured at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere.

With her warm, playful approach to coaching and facilitation, Kelly creates refreshingly candid spaces for processing and healing challenges around dating, sexuality, identity, body image, and relationships. She’s particularly enthusiastic about helping softhearted women get re-energized around the dating experience and find joy in the process of connecting with others. She believes relationships should be easy—and that, with room for self-reflection and the right toolkit, they can be.

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How to Really Keep a Man Interested: 10 Golden Secrets

In this article we will talk about how to keep a man interested.

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Last week, I visited my best friend Anaya’s place for her mother’s birthday.

The very next day Anaya’s boyfriend called her for a short drive. She was out for about two hours and came back home with tear in her eyes but went straight to her room.

That night, I asked her about what happened and why she was so upset. To my surprise, she told me that her boyfriend, Rohan had broken up with her.

They were together for almost three years, and their relationship seemed perfect. So, the breakup came out as a shock to me.

Anaya told me Rohan didn’t feel the same about their relationship anymore. He didn’t want to stay in a relationship where he was not invested and interested emotionally.

I could understand Rohan had all the right to communicate his feelings.

But I felt bad for Anaya. It was a shock for her. She told me her fear of abandonment was getting stronger as every man in her life seemed to lose interest in her eventually. And she felt she simply wasn’t able to keep a man.

This led me to dig a bit deeper into this issue. I started researching the topic and read the opinion of many relationship experts on how to keep a man interested.

Are you also with a partner who doesn’t seem to show much interest?

Do you want to make a conscious effort to keep your man interested and in love with you? If yes, you’re in the right place.

In this article you’ll find some practical tips that can help you enjoy an exciting and loving relationship with your man.

The Importance of Keeping Your Guy Interested

Romantic novels and movies taught us that true love doesn’t require much effort. However, the reality is a long-lasting relationship takes a lot of work, says Lisa Blum, Psy.D.

And of course, there has to be a mutual effort between you and your man to keep the relationship exciting and fun.

When you’re trying to keep your guy interested, it’s not about chasing him or letting him take advantage of you.

Men often become complacent and stop making efforts once they get comfortable in a relationship. Which drives women mad.

However, women get comfortable too. They stop taking care of themselves, seeing their friends, and doing the things they love. They place their energy on the relationship instead of focusing it on themselves.

To spice things up again with your man, all you have to do is focusing your energy on being the best version of yourself, both inside and outside the relationship.

Be that special person he fell in love with, and things will start to change eventually. Know you might ask, “How can I do that exactly?”

Well, let’s focus on that.

How to Keep a Man Interested In You

Here are some expert tips you can rely on to keep a man interested – even if you have just slept with him and he’s playing hot and cold.

These tips will help you make him fall for you again. They will also help you grow as a partner.

1. Express gratitude and appreciation

Though they never confess it, men like being appreciated. When you praise your boyfriend or life partner for his qualities, personality, or the things he does to make you feel special, he feels valued.

Taking your man for granted is the worst thing you could do in a relationship. Simply expecting him to be there for you would push him back. It’s always better to acknowledge his efforts and express gratitude.

When you acknowledge and appreciate his efforts, it makes your man feel loved, says relationship coach Jordan Gray. The best part is that you can start praising him from this moment onward, regardless of how many years you’ve been together. This is the most basic and effortless way to keep your man interested in you.

2. Prioritize communication over complaints

In a relationship, people start knowing each other inside out. It’s a good thing to understand your partner’s strengths and weaknesses.

But it’s wrong to expect from your boyfriend that he must read your mind.

Because when he fails to do so, it hurts your expectations. And without even realizing it, you start complaining and blaming him for things beyond his understanding.

Complaining won’t do any good for the relationship. If you want your man to stay interested in the relationship, start communicating your heart out. In 2021, a team of researchers also confirmed that communicating clearly about your needs with your partners prevents confusion in a relationship.

3. Respect his personal space

Don’t panic when your boyfriend spends time with his friends or away from you. It’s okay to convey that you’re missing him at times. But constantly checking on him when he spends some time away from you isn’t a healthy behavior.

You need to respect his personal space and show your trust him. This also presents you as an emotionally independent and confident woman – which men find quite attractive.

When a man feels free to be himself in a relationship, his interest increases.

So, avoid being too clingy or insecure whenever he’s spending time apart. Instead, give him time to miss you.

4. Maintain an individual life outside the relationship

As I mentioned, while nurturing your relationship, it’s also essential to maintain an individual life outside of that relationship.

Don’t forget to meet your friends, pursue your career goals, and become a better version of yourself in every area of your life.

It’s not healthy to burden your partner with the responsibility of making you happy, marriage blogger, Patty Newbold tells Bustle.

Keeping your man interested doesn’t mean controlling his life or taking your decisions based on his approval. In fact, the opposite is true. It’s about developing a deeper understanding that nothing could deteriorate your relationship.

Making a few adjustments and working on becoming a better partner is great. But never compromise on things that make you unique just to please your man and spend more time with him.

Although at first you may think you’re being there for your partner, it might cause resentment and frustration into your relationship in the long term.

5. Don’t feel insecure about his female friends

When your man is away, you should show confidence and trust. That’s the behavior of a woman who knows how to keep a man interested.

However, this is not easy. I know. Especially if you know he’s hanging out with female friends and colleagues.

Now, let me tell you this: if he spends time with his female friends or colleagues, the best thing you can do is behaving as if you don’t care. This is the only thing that will make you stand out.

Remember, it’s his life, and you don’t want to be the toxic girlfriend who controls his actions.

There’s no need to be insecure if he has just some female friends or colleagues. Instead, start working on developing a secure attachment style.

Also, it would be difficult for you to get along with his female friends if you don’t know them very well.

So, consider spending some time with them, and try to get to know them better and become friends with them.

Your man would appreciate this effort which can reinforce his interest in you.

Feeling jealous is normal when you see your guy with other women. But as long as he respects you when he’s hanging out with his female friends, you shouldn’t act jealous.

If anything in particular is bothering you about his female friends, you should assertively share those concerns with him and handle the situation maturely.

Above all, trust him and give him sufficient space to lead his personal life.

Obviously, if you see him flirting with one of his friends or coworkers, you may want to consider giving up on that relationship. Because in that case he would be crossing the line.

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6. Put some effort into looking good

Another important habit here is to take good care of your appearance. And you should do it no just to look good, but also – and especially – to feel good about yourself.

So, don’t miss out on your workout or grooming routines.

Regardless of the many years you’ve spent together, dressing well to impress your man is a way of reminding him what he liked about you when you two met.

Psychologist Sonali Kukreja suggests that maintaining a good physical appearance is one of the most effective ways to keep a partner interested.

This also shows you love yourself and take good care of your physical and mental health.

When you make a conscious effort to look your best, it reflects in your personality and it positively affects your confidence. It keeps your man attracted and hooked to you.

7. Try new things together

Explore new things with your partner if you want to keep the spark alive.

Spending enough time together develops familiarity and comfort between partners. And over time both the partners stop making efforts to please each other. Or they tend to do it less.

However, if you want to keep your man interested, trying new things together is one of the best ways to reconnect and revitalize your relationship.

Explore new places, try new experiences, and get out of your comfort zone together. It will help you remain interesting and irreplaceable to your guy in the long run.

Inviting newness and creativity into your relationship brings excitement and pleasure. This shows your man how passionately you want to grow with him.

8. Don’t shy away from taking the initiative in bed

If you’re comfortable being physically intimate with your guy and try new things in bed, this tip will keep your relationship on track.

Try to learn about his fantasies and surprise him by trying them. If you always depend on your man to initiate things in bed, your love life may become monotonous.

Instead, start taking control in bed from time to time to enhance his curiosity.

Your confidence and boldness are the most alluring qualities that can keep your man attracted to you. Men appreciate it when women show interest in new sexual experiences and initiate the first step, confirms psychosexual therapist Dr. Ruth.

9. Encourage him to pursue his passion and interests

“Go and have fun. If it makes you happy, I’m happy.”

This should be your attitude.

Men who are passionate about their hobbies and interests love to see this reflected in their partners. It’s no secret that they want to have a partner who understands and appreciates them for who they are.

It’s okay if you don’t like the sport he loves to play, but you can always encourage him to keep participating.

Even if you and your partner have different hobbies and personal interests, you can talk about your passions and learn from each other. Your man will appreciate the effort if you show interest in things he enjoys and finds fascinating, writes Ratika Rai.

When you talk about his interests and passions openly, he ultimately feels drawn toward you. Listening to your guy’s likes and dislikes and encouraging him to follow his passions are incredible ways to keep him interested.

10. Avoid playing hard to get

It’s fine not to open up very soon in a relationship and take things slow. It’s great to be busy and pursue your hobbies.

You can be playful and leave him excited and curious to know you further.

However, being mysterious on purpose and making him wait for you on purpose isn’t the best approach to build a long-term relationship.

Playing too hard to get can negatively affect your relationship. Most men recognize when a woman is playing games and it’s usually a turn off for them.

A much better approach is to express your feelings to let him know that you also want to be with him.

Try to understand his needs and expectations. This helps keep your man interested and foster a long-lasting healthy relationship.

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How to Keep a Man Interested in You: Final Thoughts

Everyone likes to be in a loving and fulfilling relationship.

However, in any relationship both partners should take full responsibility to maintain the spark alive in the long term.

With time, couples somehow get busy with daily routines and lose that spark.

As soon as both partners stop making efforts for each other, all the excitement start to fade away, and life becomes boring.

But you can still take charge to fix things and lead a fulfilling life with your partner. If you feel your man is somehow losing interest, you can always do something about it.

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, you can only be in charge of your actions and emotions.

Here’s a summary of the things women can do to have a loving and successful relationship with their men.

1. Express gratitude and appreciation,
2. Prioritize communication over complaints,
3. Respect his personal space,
4. Maintain an individual life outside the relationship,
5. Don’t feel insecure about his female friends,
6. Put some effort into looking good,
7. Try new things together,
8. Don’t shy away from taking the initiative in bed,
9. Encourage him to pursue his passion and interests,
10. Avoid playing hard to get.

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How To Make Him Want You Desperately, According To A Guy

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If you want to pull away to make a guy want you, it’s typically not as complicated as you might think. As a guy, I would recommend keeping things simple and not overthinking too much. After all, chances are you have plenty to bring to the table when it comes to relationships so he’d be lucky to have you. That’s why you don’t need to go overboard when turning on the charm. Here are some suggestions for getting him on your side.

1. Have your own life. It’s nuts to think that the easiest way to make a guy want you is by pulling away and simply living your own life, but it’s true. This doesn’t even require any effort or change on your behalf — you just keep doing the same things you’re doing now. Keep killing it in your career, hanging out with your friends, and pursuing your passions, and he won’t be able to resist you.
2. Chill out a bit. Quite simply, if you act like you don’t give a damn, guys will want you. Some guys like being chased because they want attention, but that doesn’t make them want you. Acting carefree makes it seem like you don’t need a guy to be happy and content (and this shouldn’t actually be an act). That will make a guy want to chase after you because he’ll like the challenge. Some guys will also envy your laidback attitude, which helps make you an interesting person to be around.
3. Be fun to be around. You don’t like to hang out with people who are miserable all the time, so why would he? If you want him to like you, you need to make him want to be around you. Be up for adventure and try not to be too rigid but instead, embrace spontaneity. You don’t have to be the life of the party if that’s not your personality, but simply being up for anything and keeping a positive outlook can go a long way in making you a total catch.
4. Flirt and tease him a bit. Who doesn’t love a little flirting now and then? This guy is way more likely to go nuts for you if he knows that you’re feeling him too. You can show how into him you are by teasing him, playing around, and flirting with him. Keeping things light and happy and throwing in some little innuendos or flirty comments here and there will increase the sexual tension between you and make him desperate to be with you.
5. Be unapologetically yourself. You shouldn’t live unapologetically just to make a guy want you — you should do this in general. Wear what you want, do what you want (as long as you’re not hurting anyone else), and live your life just the way you want to no matter what anyone has to say. This will not only ensure that you’re happier in life in general but also serve to make you incredibly attractive to other people.
6. Let him see how independent and self-sufficient you are. Again, this doesn’t really require you to do anything special. You have a job, you pay your own bills, you buy yourself anything you want, and you’re doing it all without even being in a relationship. You’re the definition of a strong, independent woman, and he won’t be able to help but take notice of that.
7. Show off your intelligence. A lot of you ladies are into smart guys, right? Well, it goes both ways. A lot of guys have their curiosity piqued by smart women. This is particularly true for guys who are a little on the ignorant side. For some reason, they crave being around women who are smarter than them. If you come across as intelligent and well-read, guys are more likely to want you and think that there could be a future.
8. Laugh a lot. Guys love hearing a woman laugh. This is especially true if we think that we’re the reason why you’re laughing. Well, as long as you’re laughing with us and not at us. Being able to make a woman laugh feeds our ego in a big way, which makes us want to be around you so you can keep feeding our ego with your laughter. Therefore, if you make a guy think he’s funny, he’ll start to want you.
9. Say his name. Speaking of ego, nothing makes a guy feel more special than hearing you say his name. I also think this is a trick shady guys use to lure women. Of course, nothing says you can’t use the same tactic to make a guy want you. Obviously, you don’t want to say a guy’s name constantly; that would be weird. But you should sprinkle it into the conversation regularly. It’ll make him know that you’re thinking about him and think that he’s special. In turn, he’ll start to want you because he’ll subconsciously be thinking that you want him.

More ways to pull away to make him want you

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1. Surprise him. Few things will make a guy want you more than the ability to keep him on his toes. Of course, sexy surprises are always welcome, but little gifts and last-second plans can work too. If you can remain a little unpredictable, a guy will never lose interest and keep wanting you.
2. Change up your appearance. Speaking of surprises, a change in hair color or wardrobe can be great ways to grab a guy’s attention. This is particularly true for older relationships where things might be starting to get a little stale. The trick is to do something that will be obvious as soon as a guy looks at you. He may not notice your new haircut, but a change in hair color won’t go undetected. It’ll make you seem spontaneous, which is always key in making a guy want you.
3. Withhold details. This is another good idea for couples. Granted, it’s a little bit of a game, but it’s a clever one. When you talk about your day, leave out important details by just giving him the bare minimum. Tell him enough to get his attention and then wait for him to press you for more. It’s a nice way to make him engaged and interested in you.
4. Remind him why you’re a catch. If your relationship is cruising along, make your boyfriend want you again by reminding him why he wanted you in the first place. Surely, you know why your boyfriend was attracted to your initially, right? Well, find ways to remind him of that. It could be the outfit you wore on your first date or even a recreation of your first date. Sometimes, that’s all it takes for a guy to want you the way he used to.
5. Take a break sometimes. It’s simple geography: a guy can’t want you if you’re always around. That doesn’t mean you should disappear completely. That would be confusing for him. It just means you should avoid being too clingy or needy. Be sure to take breaks from contact and be unavailable to him sometimes. Trust that absence will make his heart grow a little fonder. If you can make a guy miss you, you can make him want you.
6. Be confident. I can’t say enough about the importance of confidence. A guy will desperately want you if you believe that he should want you. Show him that you’re comfortable with who you are and confident that any guy would be lucky to have you. If you believe that you’re something special, guys will believe it too and start to want you.
7. Smell nice. Okay, this isn’t me saying this, it’s science. Pheromones are a real thing and can play a role in making someone want you. If there’s a certain soap or perfume that a guy says he likes, stick with it. He may have an inexplicable attraction to that scent, and as long as you wear it, he’ll want you.
8. Be proactive in bed. So, this works in two ways. First, don’t be afraid to initiate sex sometimes. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but at least sometimes. Doing so will show a guy that you want him, and in turn, he’ll want you more. Second, don’t be afraid to take control in bed. This can include experimenting with new things. If you never let a guy get comfortable with a routine when it comes to sex, he’ll never know what to expect next and he’ll never stop wanting you.
9. Let him know that you want him but don’t need him. You can and should be upfront about the fact that you really like this guy. Playing coy and acting aloof is something teenagers do and you’re a grown woman. However, you should also make it clear that you simply want him, you don’t need him. Your life isn’t incomplete without him and you’ll be fine if he’s not feeling it. Oddly enough, that just might make him want you even more.

If he’s not feeling you after all of that…

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It should go without saying that if you’re doing all of the things above and this guy still isn’t giving you the attention and interest you clearly deserve, he’s seriously missing out. However, that doesn’t mean you should go in even harder and work to try to change his mind. Instead, recognize that he’s clearly not on your level and he’s not the one for you.

Effort in relationships should be 50/50 and you should absolutely put yourself out there instead of always expecting him to come to you. However, you shouldn’t be the only one trying to impress. Even if it did work and you did eventually start dating, you’d be setting a terrible precedent and any subsequent relationship would be uneven and ultimately pretty toxic.

Hopefully, though, you don’t find yourself in that position. You’re such a catch, how could he not want you?

If you want some more tips on how to make a man want you, this time from a woman, check out Taty Cokley’s guide to making a guy want you below – it’s pretty great!

Bryan Zarpentine is a freelance writer and editor whose work can be seen in many forms throughout the Information Superhighway.