What makes a man notice a woman?

First Things A Woman Notices About A Man

M y buddy Antonio, from the awesome RealMenRealStyle.com, recently published a video about the first 10 things a woman notices about a man & what attracts women to men (see it here: https://youtu.be/b44YuuSp0ac). In the comments, he asked if there were some things that he missed. Well, he did. So here’s the first few things a woman notices about a man – from a woman’s perspective.

Here’s a few videos/articles Antonio and I collaborated on, as well.

8. Scent

Your overall smell – body odor, cologne and breath. Your scent is an indication of how considerate you are of yourself and of others because being stinky, with body odor or assaulting people with your cologne is disgusting and rude.

7. Hair

6. Your Hands

How groomed and clean your hands are. Fingernails, smooth/rough/warts/hairy/etc are all things a woman immediately notices.

5. Shoes

What shoes you’re wearing based on the occasion and how clean they are. They indicate a lot more about a man than he often thinks.

4. Personality

Whether we’re interacting or I’m observing you from afar – The way you interact with others and the way you carry yourself are all things we immediately notice. Are you well spoken? What’s your demeanor – funny, serious, shy, nice, well-mannered, rude, etc.? Women look past physical attributes, and I know men have a hard time understanding this sometimes because they’re more visual creatures, but women immediately go right past your physical looks to try and get the core of a man. A bad personality sours even the best looking of men.

3. Clothes

How put together you are, regardless of what style you’ve adapted, is a good indicator of the type of man you are. If your clothes are proportional to your body, then doesn’t matter what your body type is, it shows you care about yourself enough to have respect for your own appearance. So make sure your clothes fit properly, at least!

2. Smile

Antonio had this way further down on his list then I’d ever put it. Your smile is important because it can instantly make a woman feel welcomed and comfortable. On top of that, how clean and well your teeth look is another good insight into how a man conducts his life.

1. Face

This one is pretty obvious, but Antonio didn’t give this one enough credit, either. Your features, good or bad, and how you make the best of what you’ve been given is a big deal to women. Is your skin clean looking, facial hair kept in check, eyebrow, nose and ear hair groomed? These all tell us how well you treat yourself and understand that your appearance matters – to yourself and the ability to understand how to interact with the world.

I hope this was helpful!

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What Do Women Notice First About Men?

When a woman looks at a guy from a distance, it’s only natural that she will notice the superficial things about him first (e.g. his appearance and clothing).

However, while she might be initially be drawn to superficial things about him, she will then start to focus on the more important things about him that have nothing to do with his appearance.

For example: A woman might notice a good looking guy across a room and think to herself, “Hmmm… He looks kind of cute. He’s got a sexy smile.”

If she then notices that he is relaxed and confident around other people, she will become more attracted.

If she also notices that when he speaks the people around him are paying attention, respecting him, laughing with him or having a good time, her feelings of attraction for him will increase even further.

She will then think, “That guy is hot. I hope he comes over and talks to me.”

When he approaches her to say, she will feel excited to be interacting with him because he has already made a positive impression on her from a distance.

However, even though she is excited to meet him and interested to see where it goes, she might act like she hadn’t even noticed him prior to him approaching, or she will pretend as though she isn’t very interested in talking to him, because she wants to determine how confident he is around her.

It’s one thing to be confident around friends, but what a woman really needs to see is whether a guy will remain confident when talking to her, especially when she tests him by playing hard to get, acting like she isn’t interested or not contributing much to the conversation.

If the guy remains confident and relaxed while talking to her regardless of how she tries to test him (e.g. by playing hard to get), she will feel even more attracted to him.

On the other hand, even though a woman might initially notice a good looking guy and think, “That guy over there is hot…he looks like my type,” she will instantly lose interest in him if she then notices that he’s shy, nervous or insecure around other people.

It won’t matter to her that he is good looking because he will lack the more important qualities that women really look for in a man.

Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works…

If a man interacts with a woman and displays traits that turn women off (e.g. insecurity, nervousness, self-doubt, putting on an act of being an even nicer guy than he is, etc), she will lose interest in him even if he is good looking.

Some women (usually unattractive women) will accept an insecure good looking guy, but that doesn’t mean she will remain attracted to him in a relationship.

What really matters to a woman is how a man makes her feel by way of his personality, behavior and inner qualities.

To most women, if the guy is good looking that is seen as a bonus, but it’s not a necessity.

Of course, some women will only accept a good looking, rich, tall man, but the majority of women place less importance on looks and choose guys based on how he makes her feel during an interaction.

Understanding Attraction

If you’re asking, “What do women notice first about men?” it’s probably because you don’t yet understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works.

As a result, you probably believe that women are attracted to men for the same reasons men are attracted to women (i.e. looks).

For example: When a guy first sees a woman, the first thing he will notice about her is the way she looks, (her body, face, legs, etc) and if she is beautiful (or even just a little bit attractive), most guys will be willing to have sex with her simply based on her appearance.

Most guys will have sex or even a relationship with her regardless of whether she is confident and relaxed, or shy, nervous and insecure.

Yet, women don’t work the same way.

If a guy is shy, nervous or insecure it is huge turn off for women because women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength of men (e.g. confidence, self-esteem) and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. insecurity, self-doubt).

Since a woman’s appearance is enough for most guys to want to have sex with her, most guys believe that women also choose men on the basis of looks.

However, almost all women (not all women!) choose men differently to the way men choose women.

Based on all of my experience picking up women and helping other guys to pick up women, I estimate that a guy can make approximately 90% of women feel attracted to him.

He won’t be able to pick up 90% of women because some women aren’t single, some aren’t compatible with him (e.g. he’s too smart for her) and some just won’t suit his lifestyle.

However, he can make about 90% of women feel attracted to him and be interested in being with him if he is able to display the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that women are naturally attracted to.

If Women Notice Men’s Looks First, Then Why Are So Many Good Looking Guys Single and Lonely?

If women only had sex and relationships with guys based on good looks, most of the guys in this world (me included) would be single and lonely.

Only the tall, muscular good looking guys would be having sex and dating and getting married, while the rest of us just wasted our life jerking away to porn every week.

However, as you may have noticed by looking at the world around you, beautiful women are with all different kinds of men.

No doubt, you will have noticed that many plain, average looking, weird looking, short, fat, skinny guys have a beautiful girlfriend or wife, while many really tall, muscular, model look-alikes are single and desperate to get laid and get a girlfriend. Why?

Some of the “unattractive guys” have realized that even if a woman first notices a man’s looks, she will wait to see how she feels while interacting with him before she decides to have sex with him.

If his behavior and conversation style makes her feel attracted to him, almost all women will not get hung up about his looks.

In fact, she will even start to see his physical “flaws” in a more positive light.

For example: If he wears glasses, she will see it as cute, classy or sophisticated.

If he is overweight, she will see him as being cuddly and really like that about him.

For example: A woman at a bar or nightclub might notice a chubby, balding guy and then look away and forget all about him because he’s not her type.

However, if he approaches her and engages her in conversation while being confident, relaxed and allowing his natural charisma to shine through, she will instantly begin to feel attracted to him.

If he then begins to make her feel girly and feminine in comparison to his masculinity (e.g. how he thinks, feels, behaves, moves, feels), she will begin to smile, blush and feel giggly while talking to him, which will turn her on and make her feel even more attracted to him.

Before long, she will find herself thinking, “He’s not my usual type, but I like him” or “I don’t usually go for overweight or bald guys, but this guy is different. He’s sexy.”

What she means by “sexy” is that he makes her feel sexually attracted. Sexy doesn’t mean good looking or having big muscles.

Yes, those things can attract women, but so many other things (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm) can attract women too.

This is why insecure good looking guys often find it very difficult to attract a decent looking girlfriend, because most women simply won’t accept the emotional weakness.

Insecure good looking guys will rarely approach women unless they are drunk or at party with mutual friends, so they don’t actually get many opportunities to properly meet women.

Sometimes a good looking guy will get approached by a woman who thinks he looks hot, but that will not guarantee that he is able to pick her up.

For example: A woman might notice a tall, muscular, good looking guy across the room and feel instantly attracted to his physical appearance.

Yet, when she stands next to him (e.g. at the bar or next to his group) in the hope that he begins talking to her, he looks away from her in a shy way.

Since she really likes him and thinks that he is her physical type, she takes the plunge and makes the first by starting a conversation with him.

The good looking guy might initially feel comfortable because he has been approached, but when she starts to test his confidence, she will notice the cracks and begin to see that he is a shy, insecure guy who doesn’t feel like he is good enough for her.

Suddenly, she begins to think, “I don’t know why, but this guy just gives me the creeps” and then leaves the interaction.

This is not a once off occurrence. It’s is something that happens to thousands of good looking guys all over the world.

So don’t waste your time worrying about what women notice first about men and thinking that if you’re not good looking, you can’t get women to feel attracted to you.

Here is the truth…

You can CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman by displaying some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract women.

Even if a woman doesn’t initially feel attracted to your looks, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make her feel intensely attracted to you for other reasons (e.g. by being confident, charismatic, charming, funny).

Yes, some women will only have sex with or date a guy based solely on his appearance, but most women are attracted to things about men that have nothing to do with physical appearance.

Making a Woman Want You

Although women will notice everything about a man, it’s important that you understand and accept that most women are attracted to a lot more than a man’s outward appearance.

At the end of the day, a woman will either be attracted to you because you display certain personality traits and behaviors around her, (e.g. confidence, charm, emotional strength) or she will be turned off because you don’t.

No matter how good looking a guy is on the outside, if he lacks substance on the inside, he will not be able to make a woman feel a lasting attraction for him.

You can be a male super-model, wear the best fashions and drive a Lamborghini, but if you lack confidence, are self-doubting and insecure, or behave in other unattractive ways, then a woman won’t care that when she first noticed you she thought you were drop-dead gorgeous, rich or fashionable.

On the other hand, when you make a woman feel the way she wants to feel when she interacts with you (i.e. turned on, aroused, attracted), everything about you will seem so much more appealing to her.

For example: Once a woman is attracted, she will then appreciate the fact that you’re also a nice, intelligent man who has good intentions with her.

However, she won’t care about those things if you don’t first make her feel attracted.

So, don’t waste another day worrying about what women notice first about men.

Instead, just focus on making women feel attracted to you when you actually interact with them in person.

That’s where all the power is and it is what gives you your choice of women.

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What to Look For In A Guy: 8+4 Traits That Mean He’ll Be Good To You

We’ve all done it at some point – made a checklist, listed out every quality we want our perfect partner to have. While trying to tick off every single box on the list isn’t likely to be possible or even advisable, it’s a good idea to think about what to look for in a guy before you meet someone. If you’ve put some thought into the qualities to look for in a man, it’ll be that much easier to know boyfriend material when you see it. Here are some qualities to look for:

1. Kindness

When it comes to what to look for in a guy, kindness is one of the most important things on the list. How a man treats other people is a very good indicator of how he’ll behave in a relationship. While it’s traditional to look at how men treat their mothers, it’s a good idea to look at how he treats people in general.

Example: He treats waitstaff and administrative assistants with respect.

How to know if he’s got it: Observe how he treats people with less power than him, especially if he’s having a bad day.

2. A sense of humor

We all want someone who makes us laugh, and for good reason. But it’s just as important to look at how a guy does it. Can he laugh at himself, or is his idea of humor only poking fun at other people? Finding a guy who laughs with, rather than at you is key when it comes to qualities to look for in a man.

Example: He always has a joke for you, or an observation that makes you laugh.

How to know if he’s got it: Look for a man you find yourself laughing around often.

3. Integrity

When it comes for what to look for in a guy, integrity is close to the top of the list. When a guy has integrity, you know you can trust him even when you’re not around. You can also trust him to do the right thing no matter how hard.

Example: He stands up for what he believes in even when it’s hard or there are consequences.

How to know if he’s got it: Ask about his values, or just observe how he lives his life.

4. Confidence

A confident man is secure in himself and in your relationship with him. While he appreciates your support, he doesn’t need validation from you. He’s happy at your success and supports you in the decisions you make, making confidence one of the most important qualities to look for in a man.

Example: When you get a promotion at work, he’s enthusiastic and sincere in his congratulations

How to know if he’s got it: He doesn’t question himself or you, especially on the small stuff.

5. Positivity

A relationship with someone who’s constantly focused on the negative side of life sounds exhausting, not to mention not sustainable in the long term. This is why it’s so important, when deciding what to look for in a guy, that he has a positive attitude and stays optimistic.

Example: He’s able to look on the bright side of life, even when things are bad.

How to know if he’s got it: Bring up something depressing or negative and conversation and see how he reacts.

6. Independence

It’s important to have your own life even when you’ve found the right person, and any man worth having will understand that. Time spent with your significant other is important, sure, but so are girls’ nights or nights out with the guys, time spent with family, or even just taking a few hours or days to yourself.

Example: He has regular nights out with his friends and encourages you to do the same.

How to know if he’s got it: He’s happy for you to do things separately and doesn’t insist on doing everything together.

7. Passion

A guy who’s worth dating will be passionate about something – perhaps it’s his work, perhaps it’s a sports team or a hobby. It doesn’t matter so much what it is, just that he is passionate about something.

Example: He loves the NFL, or takes time out of his schedule to go fishing, or never misses Comic-Con.

How to know if he’s got it: Listen to him and see what topics make his eyes light up.

8. Stability

Dating the bad boy is all well and good in high school and college, but the older we get, the more appealing stability becomes when it comes to what to look for in a man. And stable doesn’t necessarily mean boring; it just means that the man in question is responsible, which is always a good thing.

Examples: He has a steady job and keeps a more-or-less standard routine.

How to know if he’s got it: He has a regular schedule and shows up when he says he will.

9. Emotional Awareness

Big touch macho men who can’t deal with emotions? Only fun in romance novels, not in real life. When choosing what to look for in a guy, the ability and the willingness to be in touch with his emotions could mean the difference between a happy, healthy relationship and one that’s filled with frustration and bad communications.

Examples: He’s willing to talk, even about ‘sappy’ stuff.

How to know if he’s got it: He has healthy relationships with the people in his life and doesn’t avoid conversations.

10. Curiosity

Another way you know what to look for in a guy? He’s curious about the world, and you, and wants to learn more. This doesn’t mean he needs to have a string of letters after his name – it just means that he’s willing to put in the effort to broaden his horizons, especially when it’s something you’re interested in.

Example: You see him reading a book about Ancient Egypt after you expressed an interest in seeing the pyramids.

How to know if he’s got it: He asks about things he doesn’t know about and is happy to learn about new things.

11. Attentiveness

We live in a world full of distractions, so when a man makes a real effort to pay attention to you rather than his phone? That’s definitely on the list of what to look for in a guy. Especially, if he’s willing to put his phone down and focus on you rather than whatever the latest social media sensation is.

Example: You mention you like strawberries in passing, and he brings you some randomly.

How to know if he’s got it: He listens to you – not just what you say but your body language as well – and acts accordingly.

12. Shared values

Perhaps the most important thing when it comes to what to look for in a man. Shared values can make or break a long-term relationship. Consequently, it’s really important to take them into account when you’re trying to find love. As important as the other qualities are, shared values are the bedrock of any successful relationship.

Example: You share the same political or religious beliefs, or have similar ideas about how your future could look like.

How to know if he’s got it: This is another thing that’ll come out in conversations, or just straight up asking.

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